Acknowledge your toddler’s feelings of anxiety. Allow them to use their primary caregiver for security in presence of unfamiliar adults. Ebbeck, M., Phoon, D. M., Tan-Chong, E. C., Tan, M. A., & Goh, M. L. (2015). A research study on secure attachment using the primary caregiving approach. Early Childhood Education Journal, 43(3), 233–240. doi:10.1007/s10643-014-0647-4 Landry SH, Smith KE, Swank PR. (2006). Responsive parenting: Establishing early foundations for social, communication, and independent problem-solving skills. Developmental Psychology., 42:627– 642.
Having consistent caregivers, especially in the early years (before three years old) helps the child develop
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Holding and talking with the child is a form of contingent communication where parents pay attention to what children are trying to communicate and respond positively and consistently. This mode of communication creates a secure environment where children learn to trust that they have someone to depend on in case of need. When early attachment relationships are mainly warm, positive and consistent, children feel safe with their caregivers, who become a "secure base" for them. As such, children feel free and confident to explore and interact with the world. Bowlby, J. (1988). A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. New York, NY: Basic Books. Bakermans-Kranenburg, M. J., van IJzendoorn, M. H., & Juffer, F. (2003). Less is more: Meta-analyses of sensitivity and attachment interventions in early childhood. Psychological Bulletin, 129, 195–215. Landry SH, Smith KE, Swank PR. (2006). Responsive parenting: Establishing early foundations for social, communication, and independent problem-solving skills. Developmental Psychology., 42:627–642. Barnas, M. V., & Cummings, E. M. (1994). Caregiver stability and toddlers’ attachment related behaviour towards caregivers in day care. Infant Behaviour and Development, 17, 141-147.